We had our 3 girls within the first 6 years of our marriage. We were a young couple, with laudable dreams ahead of us. Excited about the prospects of bringing up our 3 children (noting the trend in this area…we decided swiftly that we didn’t want any more!!!); fulfilling our teens and youth ministries, building our careers – I was climbing up the HR ladder and my husband was running his own Estate Agency (new business), life was good, and we were looking forward to ‘living happily ever after”!
Then suddenly, in April 2010, life happened. Our youngest daughter – then 18 months old, convulsed and by the next day had slipped into a coma! She was in a comatose state for about 12 days and by the time she eventually came round, we found that our beautiful, smiley, fair skinned baby had been brain-damaged, would be unable to feed through the mouth any longer or even sit by herself as she had lost neck control!!! Within a month, we had a perfectly healthy baby altered into an ailing one whose very life hung on a thread.
My journey into the ‘world of disabilities’ thus started. This was a life changing event which impacted on the very fabric of our family, both nuclear and extended, and my perception of life took a completely different turn. We have come close to 10 years on this path; we thank God for our 3 girls, we are still together as a family unit, albeit with a totally different ‘happily ever after’ than when we first began!
I changed my career path towards the field of disabilities with the intent to fully understand the terrain so I could support my daughter appropriately. This later developed into a passion to be of help and support to other families in similar circumstances leading to my founding OAKONSULT DISABILITIES OUTREACH (OAKONSULT).